Monday, December 5, 2022

I WON!!!

 I never went into this thinking it was a contest!  Just a few minutes ago, I called him on the phone and asked him why he hadn't been sleeping here.  Here is the "trailer" he "owns."  We've known each other about two years.  Knew the first time I spent any time with him he was crazy as a fucking bed bug!  He didn't answer the door of the extended hotel where he lived the second time I went over there and I didn't remember the number of the door.  I sat in the hallway, I'm anemic so I get very tired!!!   I knew I was having issues at my place and I just wanted to rest!  I called him time after time, after time.  He knew I was coming over.  I finally just went back downstairs and they called his room.  I think they told me what number it was.  As they were asking me for my ID, I just kept walking.  

He opened the door.  My brain is foggy too but I KNOW that I mentioned going out to eat.  He started looking for his car keys.  He couldn't find them.  I sat on the second bed.  He said, "You have my keys!!!!  I'm going to call the police."  I knew that was next level craziness and you NEVER, NEVER NEVER threaten a Black person with calling the police.  That's like signing a death warrant!  On TOP of that I could whip this crazy buldging belly & eye ball White bastard!  I HOPPED up out of bed, gathered my shit & left with the intention to never speak to him again.  

We work at the same place but that doens'st mean we have to have anything to do with each other!  We are independent contractors.  I refused to look at him as we'd circle our cars in the driveway.  Eventually he looked at me.  He eventually said sorry & that I was sitting on his keys.  That told me he doesn't operate in reality and this was some scary shit but I still needed a place to stay indoors, I have a cat, dog and fish!  

In the beginning, HE'S the one who came to MY place looking to stay with me.....I'm so GLAD that didn't happen.  He's addicted to POT, spends about $10 or $20 a day on it!  Won't pay the lot rental, won't pay his car note, has spent $5,000 on Vbucks for his intellectually disabled fourteen, going on fifteen year old boy.  Everytime I see that child'/s face on that man's phone asking for money it turns my blood cold!!!  This same child, who refuses to wake up in the morning and go to school still gets however many v bucks so he can change skins on the characters in Fortnite!  I told, AH, "too bad you didn't spend that money on a college fund."  He agreed and shook his head.  I realize what he does with his child is none of my business, except when the electricity gets shut off for non payment yet, v bucks are being spent, that's kind of my problem.  AH had this master scheme which required me to work for 3 weeks making $500 a week.  I would drive him to get breakfast in the morning, pay him $350 a week for gas, which required me filling up his gas tank daily.  On top of that, he'd work & make $1,000 a week and at the end of 3 weeks he'd pay his friend to insulate, the bedroom, so his child can have a nice place  to go for Christmas.  This would require us to sleep in the other rooms.  I noticed my cat looking at the water bowl strangely.  I stuck my finger in it and ran into layers of ice.  That's in the LIVING ROOM where AH wants us to sleep while this bedroom is being worked on.  I immediately said, "I'll go to the shelter."  I'd also said at another time I'd sleep in my car.  

We had a few more instances of insanity!  The last one was on Saturday night, I think.  We'd met at the hotel where he parks his car because he can't bring it back to the trailer, because the repo man is looking for it.  I wanted an itemized bill.  He FLIPPED his lid!!  He threatened to make a scene.  I could care less!  I'm not sure WHY that set him off!  It really had nothing to do with him and ..... Oh, I remembered that was Friday, the same night I went Superwoman on these three white boys beating a Black boy, but that's a story for another day!  When I told him the story, he didn't react like I thought he would.  I can see in him the same behavior in this other guy I was introduced to by a friend.  BOTH are cracked in the head!  I'm thinking perhaps schitziphrenia, definately some explosive personality disorder.  When the television is on, his attention is 100% on it.  Unfortunately, I watch crime drama and that's not good for him!  BUT I'm paying the damn bill for the equipment so we can watch TV!  I am glad he's gone..........but it's been scary.  #1, he didn't even tell me he wasn't going to come back!  I spent last night calling, & calling & calling, and he wouldn't answer the phone!  I called because he would disturb me to go get him from the hotel, even though it is well within walking distance!  I totally FLIPPED out when I asked him to go to the Lebenon Festival on Saturday.  He replied, "I've got to work."  In the car, I reminded him of all the times I drove and PAID for him to have coffee in the morning at Tim Hortons, all of the cigarellos I bought so he can smoke pot (I didn't say the smoking pot thing."  I said, the one time I ask something he can't do it but compared to all of the things I  do....then he said, "Why didn't you say, Babe, this is important.  I didn't know this was so important."  I said, "WAS, it was."  So as I made the turn he just got too nasty, I stopped the car, got out & he tried to take the keys out of the car.  He wound up just ripping the yarn on my homemade key chain!  I screamed at him to GET OUT!!!  He screamed, "DON'T COME TO THE TRAILER!!"  SO I sat there while I waited for the police to arrive.  I called the police back when I saw his car heading towards the trailer, I said I was afraid he was going to hurt my animals and should I follow behind.  The woman dispatcher said she's seen this before that my life is more important and to not follow him.  I eventually did go back to the trailer....everyone's fine but the back door was open!!!  It blows open!  I bought a latch that sat for about a week on the table so I took it back to the hardware store!  FUCK IT!  

I got a call from the police.  I told them where I was and I said I can go back to where I was.  Every other block is like another fucking jurisdiction!  The officer's last name was like Buttery or something sweet, #314.  He was sweet.....................smiling and laughing at the appropriate times!  He said he really can't do anything but I should probably move.  He told me to stay warm.  I am, I'm so warm!!!! 

This negativity, the yelling, the demanding money, it all has been driving me to the edge.  I tried to kill myself a few days ago and you know, I never thought I'd be one of those people who were glad to be alive but I'm glad I'm still here!!!!  I mean, I KNOW I can do better!!!  I've been talking to the suicide hotline and one sweet girl told me where I am now isn't the "end destination it's only a stepping stone."  And I know how to high step the hell out of a situation!  So, I'll stay here, as long as I can, I am making plans, and we will see.  

BEFORE this like last week AH called and said, "there's so much negative energy in the trailer (of course he means me, he never takes any credit for his negative behaviors), I'm going to tell the people on Tuesday, I'm leaving the trailer!!"  I didn't let on how upset I was.  I paced up and down the hallway trying to think of what to do and how to kill myself!  I felt I had no place other than this to go and it was the end!  I did some internet research, came up with two methods.  I was able to leave the next day & purchase "it."  It didn't work!  I only got the runs & I was a bit dizzy.  I DID buy something ELSE!!!!!  That something ELSE is pretty damn well a guarantee and costs a bit more.  I think I'm going to return it...I'd rather have the money!  I have my ideas!!!  My life is half over.  My dog and cat love me so much!  I will stick around for them!!!  They are both with me!  Stay tuned!  I deserve so much better than what I have!  I'm going to get plastic totes, pack up all of my belongings and just be ready to FLY!!!  

Sunday, August 15, 2021

 WOW, It's incredible to think how much I've gone through these past few weeks.  I guess it's probably been a month.  I was introduced to a man by a friend of mine.  Now I know, never let your friends set you up!  This is the second emotionally crippled, crazy, autistic person I've been introduced to.  It can make you wonder how your friend's see you.  I KNOW that the first person who introduced me is stupid!  She said, "He likes Black women,"  As if that's the only requirement one needs to date me! This second person apologized profusely when I described what happened.  The final straw was when I talked about an incident in the gym where a tiny bitch basically pushed past us.  I will never forget how damn close her mouth was to me as she said, "Excuse me!!"  As if she were in a hurry to get to some piece of equipment!  So this man, we'll call him D.  D started berating me, saying how I was letting people destroy me and how he didn't let that happen he had a Star Trek shield.  #1, women talk!  Women like to debrief or simply talk about what happened with their day.  This D. person has some disorder where they repeat what they say over & over & over & over & over & over.  I have no idea what that disorder is and I'm not trying to diagnose him but I recognize crazy.  Guess it takes crazy to recognize crazy!  I'm so thankful I KNOW that it's him and not me!  Most women would cry and tell him they will change or cry for him to accept them!  

If a man has ED, erectile dysfunction and they don't immediately agree to be seen by a doctor to find out what the problem is walk away or run!!!  This guy is 67.  First, he said he hadn't really had sex after divorcing his wife like 40 years ago.  Then he says that he hasn't had this problem with other women, then he says if I would just get on top, that would get him excited and hard!  I KNEW all that shit were lies!!!  I have arthritis so bad in my knees my left one needs to be replaced!  He was asking questions, like he was trying to blame me.  So I DID get on top, no difference!!!  He actually said that he's NEVER enjoyed sex..with me.  I reminded him all the hundreds of times he said, "Good P&SSy!!"  I hated him saying that because it was so crass!   He asked me if I enjoyed myself.  I told him in a very sensitive way that I have learned to pleasure myself regardless of whether or not I'm 100% satisfied!  I didn't say, I'm very sensitive and can achieve an orgasm with just having a dick touch me.  The fact that he REFUSED to make a doctor's appointment to find out if his problem is physical or psychological is a huge indication that there's a bigger problem!  He has insurance!  Oh and to top it all off he never did oral sex!  I mentioned that but he never said anything!  I actually have THIS way of thinking, I had MORE than enough sex when I was younger so having a satisfactory sex life doesn't matter, BUT the thing is men who can't get hard dicks WANT to TRY and have sex.  They will TRY & TRY & blame the woman!  If the man simply doesn't try and leaves the woman alone, that's fine!  This dumb ass also had a phone that didn't ring!  It was like that for a year!  Well after looking at the phone a few times, I discovered it was set on "do not disturb."  I took that off and surprise, surprise, it rings!  It was so frustrating for M and I because we would call him and he wouldn't answer.  I saw how dumb he was when I was with him and I called, he had me saved in the phone.  M and I happen to have the same name, so he said M. is calling.  I said, That's me!!  

He has no car!  We live in the COUNTRY!!!  One has to travel miles through corn fields to get anywhere!  He happens to live in a city and he can walk where he needs to go.  He did rent a car for some strange reason and paid $300 for it!  He is friends with my friend and he brought her a piece of furniture.  I happened to be selling my car so he decides he wants to buy it!  He talked really fancy and said he wanted me to set up my bank account to just take the money from his automatically and he'd even pay MORE at certain times.  That just didn't sound right to me!!!  My bank can't just TAKE money from his account!!!  I called my bank to discuss it.  I told him that we needed to go to HIS bank to set this up!  We spent over an HOUR at his bank.  I told him in the beginning NOT to mention it's for a car!  He mentioned the car.  The Black girl teller went in another room with two other people and came out saying that they could set up the car loan, etc.... so we went in the room with someone else.  He explained how D. can set up his electronic bank account to send money.  He didn't want to do that!  He didn't want to sign up for electronic banking, although he clearly has that set up on his account somehow because his rent and other things come out automatically??!!  We then told him he can just write checks.  He didn't want to do that.  At the end, I had this look on my face, the same look I have now.  What a fucking waste of time!!!  

We actually got along very well most times!  He has these spells!  If I say, hand me the book off the table.  He will start walking towards  the table, stop and just wander around!  The person who knows him, I'll call her, M.  She spoke about how he took her to the store and he kept asking her, "Do you want to buy this, etc."  She KNEW what she wanted to buy, it was late, she just wanted to get her stuff and go & not discuss every little thing!  Then at his house, she had to demand he give her a pan so she could fix her food!  This reminds me of how I asked him if he wanted food.  I don't remember what he said exactly but he didn't not answer in the affirmative so I just ordered my food, breakfast.  It came, he starts this tirade about how I didn't even ask him if he wanted anything, he said he didn't want anything but for me to just order food was rude!  He had said before that he really didn't eat.  Ohhhh, this is RICH!  Before that he told me that he would challenge me to lose weight!  He would put $100 in a jar and I put in $100 and we'd keep going until a certain time then, if I'd lost the weight I'd get the money.  #1 I have NEVER SAID I want to lose weight!!! I DON'T CARE!!!!!  For him to ASSUME, that every one wants to lose weight is wrong!  I told M. about his weight thing and she agreed that was fucked up.  M. has some problem too.  I'm not sure what it is, but she'll stare off into space and I can see on her face that she's not all there at times!   Back to her food story, she said that afterward, she was going to spend the night at his place.  He has one king bed!  I know....she said that he demanded she not wear clothes to bed.  She said she wanted to just sleep in her clothes.  He gave her a robe to wear.  I told her how fucked up that was and how predatory!  She has control of HER body and how she sleeps!  The fact that she didn't know this, or NOT allow him to demand that she get naked to sleep in his bed is sickening!!!  I didn't harp on this with her.  I guess I'd say she's easily manipulated!  

The last straw was when at 4 a.m. he started talking about how he had a shield and I was letting people "destroy" me.  I packed up, I forgot my cinnamon roll bundle in the refrigerator, and walked out!  I haven't even missed him!!!  I was having fun sleeping someplace that was not home!  My animals missed me.  We all sat on the balcony.  My cat lay in the pink light of the security light outside and just sighed!  He was so sweet!  It was a good day.  .

I haven't talked to M. since I left at 4 a.m.  I will see her today at church.  I sort of want to say to her that I can't discuss it because she does speak to him.  I may say something like, "I need someone who doesn't have a brain disorder!"